Marrige is not mandatory for everybody

What is marriage? what is the purpose of marriage? why did God established this institution called marriage? How can two people from different family background come together and enjoy their relationship as husband and wife? These and many more question are what we need to ask ourselves and make sure we know before embarking on this journey of marriage.

US police arrested a Nigerian woman for stabbing her husband to death in US

35 year old Nigerian woman, Adebamiro Temitope, pictured left, has been arrested by the New Castle Police in Delaware, Philadelphia for stabbing her 37 year old Nigerian husband and father of her two children, Adeyinka Adebamiro to death over allegations of abuse and cheating.

The woman accused her husband of constant abuse and claimed he cheated on her with several women including her sister and their nanny's daughter.

 According to Delaware Online, neighbors alerted the police after screams and shouting was heard emanating from the couple's home in the 1300 block of Healy Courton in New castle on Thursday April 23rd. When the police got to their home, they found Adeyinka in the pool of his blood with a 4 inch single stab wound just below his neck which severed his carotid artery and jugular vein.


Temitope told the police during interrogation that she and her late husband had been married for 10 years with two children and he'd abused her for most of their marriage. She said the real trouble between them started when she found out her husband was sleeping with her own sister as well as the daughter of their nanny and other women. She said that the nanny had lived with them for two years.

Temitope also told investigators her husband had sent her to Nigeria for several months and after returning in December, she had to stay in a hotel near the Philadelphia airport for four days because her husband refused to let her into their Red Lion home.

He then paid for her to fly back to Nigeria for a few more months, according to documents. About this time, she learned that her husband had spent Christmas with the nanny's daughter.

The husband later flew out to Nigeria and flew back with her to Philadelphia. As he showed her the cameras inside their home over his cellphone, Temitope saw the nanny's daughter inside the home, documents claim.

At one point, Temitope saw several texts and images in her husband's phone, which she took pictures of using her cellphone. Some of the pictures included images of her sister and the nanny's daughter. The documents do not detail the images beyond that.

As the investigation drew to the night before the killing, police learned the couple had been talking and watching television on the couch about 9 p.m. Wednesday. Temitope and her husband began arguing after he discovered the photos she'd taken on her cellphone and he began erasing them, according to court papers.

As he yelled at her, Temitope told police there was a power outage at which time she went to the kitchen until power returned, according to documents.
Investigators checked with Delmarva Power, which indicated no such power outage occurred at that time, police said.

Temitope then told police that when the power returned, she found her husband in the first-floor bedroom lying in the bed. As she got closer to him, she saw a knife on the ground which she picked up and took to the kitchen. according to documents.
As she put it away, she noticed blood on the tip and that's when she realized that he was stabbed, the papers said.

While not admitting to the killing, the court papers claim Temitope changed her story several times about what happened in the bedroom, including to say that she entered first and her husband followed her in with the knife but that he later dropped it.

Temitope suggested that her husband stabbed himself, according to the papers. The autopsy, according to the papers, said the homicide was a single stab wound just below the victim's neck, about 2 inches off the center line. The stab was 4 inches deep and severed the victim's carotid artery and jugular vein.

When police told Temitope that this was not a suicide, the woman "began nodding her head in agreement," according to court documents.

Temitope was charged with first-degree murder and other charges. She was arraigned and committed to the Baylor Women's Correctional Institution where she is being held without bail.

Source: DelawareOnline, Linda Ikeji 

SHARE YOUR PAST

It is not good to keep your past when you enter into a relationship because the secret might leak any time after the marriage. Some people have kid maybe when they were in secondary school, when they enter into a relationship, that is the first thing they need to share with their partner but some people will not because they don't want to loose the relationship.

Broken relationship is better than broken marriage. It better you loose the relationship and start another one. If he or she can not marry you for whom you are, let him or her go and somebody else that would love you for whom you are will come. Don't keep secret, let him or her know your past so that the trust will be there.

CORRECTION AND ADVICE: ONE OF THE PURPOSE OF MARRIAGE

Some couples are living together but find it difficult to advise each other despite the fact that they know their spouses are doing the wrong thing and they forget to know that this is one of the purpose of marriage. Bible says in Eccl. 4:9-10 ''two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up''. 

In every home, their must be room for correction and advice because 'nobody knows everything' (NKE) but 'everybody knows something' (EKS). An adage says, two good heads are better than one. When your husband or wife is doing something wrong or taken a wrong decision or wrong step at home or outside, it is your duty to call him or her to order and advise on the right way to go about. Failure to do so is like two blinds men that lead each other, both of them will fall into a pit, their shame can be easily expose to the third party or public. That is why you see some of our leaders doing something wrong and their spouses are no where to call them to other and correct them.

Some husbands or wives can not even dare it to advise their spouses, their house will be on fire. This is the reason why we need to be practicing all these when we are in relationship so that we can easily know whoever that can not be easily corrected. When you see two brother of the same mother enter a room and came out smiling, that means they did not say the truth to each other but when they came out with frank look it means they have said the truth to each other. Through correction and advice we can cover our nakedness for outsider to see. But correct and advise your spouse with love and respect.

WHAT ACTUALLY BUILD A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE

Building a success home is a long process issue that needs a serious attention by Individual right from our childhood to when we get married. Can only God build your home when you did not do the right thing? Can only trust, or only faithful, or only love e.t.c build a successful home? The answer is capital NO. All of them need to be apply into your marriage so that your can achieve a desire result. They are contributing to happy home if you make use of them.

One thing I discovered is that when you talk about love, some people will say trust is the most important. When you talk about trust, some will say God is the only one who can help to build home. The issue of marriage is not like that, you must apply everything to get good result.

Marriage is like a school where student need to read all his or her subject, the more you read the more you pass. One, two or tree subject can not guarantee your promotion but the more the subject you pass the more your grade level. In marriage, the more you know those things you need to know and apply them, the more successful your marriage will be. Your attitude, your character and whom you are, mostly determine how successful your marriage will be.

Three Consequences of infidelity

There are the three main consequences of infidelity for marriages.

1) Dismissive and Distrustful Marriage

Many people decide to stay in their marriage after infidelity, but are never quite able to heal enough to find happiness again. The marriage in this case is often fraught with distrust and even obsessive or abusive behavior. This type of consequence is simply not healthy, nor is it sustainable for two people to live this way.
Marriages that continue on without any sort of support or healing in the aftermath of infidelity may continue on, but rarely continue on in a healthy or happy manner. Also, as this type of solution is often dismissive of the incident itself, infidelity may continue to occur. Communication breaks down even more than it already has, and the relationship becomes a shell of what it could be.

2) Divorce

The high occurrence of divorce in this country will tell you that divorce is absolutely a very common consequence of infidelity. Many couples are not able to heal and move past this type of betrayal, as it is felt at the very foundation of the marriage itself. Many couples do try to save their relationship by seeking counseling and trying to open the lines of communication, but are just not able to move on. Divorce is one of the most common consequences of infidelity.

 3) Rebuilding The Relationship
Many couples are actually able to rebuild the relationship. Better yet, some couples are actually able to come out stronger than ever after infidelity. These are the couples that focus on rebuilding the foundation of their relationship, slowly and without giving up on themselves or each other. This is one of the main goals of how to survive an affair, to rebuild a loving, healthy relationship that is stronger than it was even before the affair.
Your marriage could go many ways after an affair, but the actions of both partners are what really makes or breaks the relationship. Your marriage will likely end up as one of these three main consequences, depending on the factors listed and how much you are both willing to work towards a solution. Look to How to Survive an Affair to learn more about how you can change the outcome of your marriage, even after infidelity.

What makes you to be matured for marriage

Maturity can not be measure in terms of stature, age, family background or complexion. At times, somebody  might be old enough to marry but he or she may not mature enough. A boy of 20 year can be mature more than a man of 40 year.  Maturity can be measure with the following:

1) Psychological Maturity: This is the ability to respond to the environment  in an appropriate manner. This response is generally learned rather than instinctive. Maturity also encompasses being aware of the correct time and place to behave and knowing when to act, according to the circumstances and the culture of the society one lives in.

2) Physical Maturity: The physical maturity is such that the person willing to go into any relationship with the opposite sex must be up to or beyond the puberty stage. When you are still teenager, people believes you are still young and not old enough to marry. In this stage, your age determine when you are mature for marriage. For instance, when a lady is above 30 year of age, she will be eager to settle down and her parent will even be disturbing her to settle down.

3) Financial Maturity: Your financial capability as a man has a great impact in any relationship. There are some spending you need to do during courtship that you must not borrow to do. When you get married you independent and you are no more under the control of anybody. To take care of your own family now become your responsibility. To meet up with your home's demand, you must have a stable job and regular income and without this you, you are not mature enough to get marry.

4) Social Maturity:  Social maturity is the process of appropriate attitudes for personal, interpersonal and social inadequacies of an individual which are essential for functioning effectively in the society. This maturity has to do with your social life. The way you interact with people, your exposure and how you relate with people.

5) Spiritual Maturity: this is the most important maturity of all. The level you are spiritually before you enter into any relationship will determine how the relationship is going to look like. The higher you are spiritually, more successful your relationship would become. Your Christianity level, the way you move closer to God determine your success in marriage.

I Was Forced To Have S3x With Dog And Horse For Money

It is very good for somebody to be decent and have focus. Whatever we might been passing through today is not the end of our life. Internet was created purposely for our benefit but some people have missed use it. I want to use this medium to advice my fellow brothers and sisters ''especially my sisters'' that are using internet to be very careful about how they use it. Don't because of what you lack or what you need and start playing a kind of game believing that you are smart or start dating somebody you have never come across before, is very dangerous. When somebody start sending money to you and you now fall in love just like that, is very risky. I want you to know that there is no free launch in free-town.

This story has been on net for a while now but the reason why I'm sharing it again is that I want all my sisters and brother that are using internet to be very careful about it. It is reported that Axelle met her pimping Boss, Jean Claude on the Internet. They had a normal chat like every other person would have when chatting with a stranger. Jean Claude told her he was a Businessman based in Marseille and was into import and export. Axelle who thought she had found the love of her life continued her communication with Jean Claude Fayard and one day he came to visit her in Cameroon. There was a huge celebration at Axelle´s Aunt´s Residence at Santa Barbara in Yaounde. Two days in Cameroon, Jean Claude proposed to Axelle and got married to her in both traditional and Legal Ceremonies. Both marriages took place on the 16th and 18th of March respectively.

Jean Claude made all travelling arrangements and the both of them flew to France on the 21 of March that same year.He even gave Axelle´s family the sum of 600.000FCFA for their up keep. Not knowing that they were selling their daughter into sex slavery, the family happily bid the couple goodbye as they left for France.

The truth of the matter was that Jean Claude is a pimp who goes to Africa and picks up girls to come and work as s*x slaves for him in France. Since Axelle did not know about this, she would wish she never used the internet in her life.As the couple arrived France,they lived in a town called Clermont Ferrand for about 9 months after which they moved to a new place called Lourdes. It is in this place that Axelle had the worst experience of her life.

A few days after their arrival to Lourdes,a man knocks on the door saying he wants to see Jean Claude.Little did Axelle know that,he would be her first client who had already paid into her husband´s bank account.When Axelle called her husband´s attention to the guest, she was shocked when her husband told her to do whatever the guest tells her to do.

A few days later after coming home from work,Jean Claude sits Axelle and laid down the rules and regulations of the job.He told her she has to pay back all the money he spent on her in Cameroon.He calculated the amount to be more than 3,000 euros and she will also be working for him for the next two years. Axelle who became speechless thought she was dreaming. It was even worse when Jean Claude took her personal belongings and all her documents.She was also prohibited from making any calls. In order words Jean Claude made sure that she had no means of communication with the outside world.

Every day she had male customers who would come for her service taking her from front and behind. She was mandated to do whatever they wanted.They would not use any protection during intercourse. One day Jean Claude came home with a customer accompanied by a dog.The man whose name is Loiseau had deposited some money into Jean Claude´s account. Axelle who didn't see this coming was pushed into the room and forced to have sex with the dog which she did. It is said that Jean Claude made more money when Axelle sleeps with an animals so these deals became the order of the day.

After her encounter with the dog, Jean Claude left with Mr Loiseau leaving Axelle alone in the house. After numerous trials, she broke down the door and ran into the street where she met a Cameroonian couple living in the town. They helped her to get to the Embassy where she narrated her ordeal.The Police was immediately dispatched to Jean Claude´s house where they found evidences linking him to kidnapping and other serious allegations. Jean Claude was immediately arrested and is waiting for judgement. Meanwhile Axelle flew back to Cameroon and was immediately taken to the hospital for further examinations and treatments.

See what the Internet can do to the youths of a country. Not all that glitters is Gold my dear brothers and sisters. If some of you could hear the stories of some Africans in the Diaspora, you will not envy them at all. After everything, home is the best even when our government and politicians fail us.What do you guys think.

8 Ways You Can Find The Right Partner

PUT GOD FIRST: First and foremost, God said in Isiah 1:19, If ye be willing and obedient, you shall it the good of the land. You must obey the word of God and keep to His commandment. When you move closer to God, when you allow Him to be directing you, He will never allow anything that will hurt you to come to your way. If eventually comes, He knows how to guild you through so that you won't fall. Through your prayer to God, when the right person comes to your way, the spirit will tell you.

 LOVE YOURSELF:  Loving yourself before you find the person you want to spend the rest of your life with is the easiest way to ensure that you'll be committing yourself to that person for the right reasons. You don't have to be 100% satisfied with yourself, but if you're unhappy with who you are, you're at risk of getting together with someone just because he or she makes you feel better about yourself. You should be happy with who you are, what you do, and how you look -- this will not only make it easier for you to attract people with your confidence, but it will make you look for an equally amazing person who will only make your life better, not the person who can fill in all of the gaps in your unsatisfactory life.

BE OF GOOD QUALITY: The type of person you are and the company you keep would determine the person that will come to your way . An adage says show me you friend and i will know whom you are. Some people are not right for themselves and they want the right partner, it is not possible. You must be a good person so that a right person may come to your way. When a right parson comes to your way, you will discover you have things in common. Within you, the quality you are looking for in that man or woman you wish to marry, you will found it in him or her. You attitude and character will resemble his or her own.

BE HAPPY BEING ALONE: Some people being single when all of their friends are happily dating or married has lead them to be impatience and rush to marry somebody who they are not suppose to marry. You may want love more than anything in the world, and it's natural for you to feel lonely or sad if you can't find it. But you have to be happy with the way you are and patiently look for whom to marry.

BE SERIOUS ABOUT SETTLING DOWN:  By planning to settle down, you should believe you are for business and not for gamble or proving smart. When you are serious, the serious person would come unlike some people who believe they want to enjoy themselves before settling down and thereby taken their wives for girlfriends. The moment you miss your wife for girlfriend, you may not have the opportunity again.

CONSIDER THE QUALITY YOU WANT IN A SPOUSE:  You Must think about the qualities that you are most looking for in your future spouse.When you see the quality in the person you marry, this will allow your love to have a rapid growth. Some men love to marry a robust  woman  as their wife, but when they marry a slim woman without serious consideration, after their marriage they will be having extra marital affair with robust woman outside because they don't like their wives' stature. 

GET EXPERIENCE ABOUT MARRIAGE: Getting experience about relationship and marriage will help you a lot in choosing the right partner. It will enable you to know what marriage entails. You may get experience from people around you, you may get from spinsters and bachelors' seminar, or marriage seminar and through reading books on marriage. All these will lead you through in knowing the right partner.

FIND SOME ONE AROUND YOU: In most cases it is good to search for who to marry around you than dating someone in long distance. If you date somebody that you nearly see each other daily, it help you to know much about the person. It's a known fact that more people meet at work than they would admit. It makes sense: in a given day, you may spend more time with your coworkers than anyone else, and if you love what you do, then you and that person may have similar interests.You may also meet somebody in your school or in church and you can easily know much about the person since you see each other regularly.

Your Mode of Dressing Either Attract Your Husband or Piss Him Off

Dressing corporate, nicely and smartly is what most of the men what from their wives. Men what their wives to always look nice and presentable in such a way that they can easily show them to their friends and family. When a woman doesn't know how to dress, at times, her husband may not like to be going out with her because he wouldn't want to be seen with her. This is the reason when some men are going to somewhere with their wives, they tell them be going we shall meet there. Why? 

Some women after their first child or second, you see them very rough and look old as if they have clock 40 or 50 years while you will see some women with like five children still smart, young, beautiful and agile. Women, try to be fashionable, dress decently and nicely so that you could be attractive to your husbands, so that your husbands would always like to be seen their beautiful wives even when they are not around.

MARRIAGE AS A BLACK MARKET

Marriage is an institution ordained by God. God said it is not good for a man to be alone and he made an helpmeet who was like him. It is the wish of God for a man and a woman to come together and be one flesh and enjoy the rest of their lives without any problem.

Why is it today that couples are no longer enjoy their homes? Why couples are no longer living in one accord? Why love and trust are shallow in marriages today? Why Problem, separation and divorce in different homes today? These and many more questions are what we need to ask ourselves in order to protect our marriage.

Despite all these, some couples are still enjoying their marriage. My dear spinsters and bachelors, if you want to enjoy your marriage, never rush into it. Take time to study who ever that comes to your way because men/women are so deceitful. You can never know their mind, after getting home they will now show their real colour.

Whoever you are dating now and having problem with him or her, it is better you think twice. Some people will be in relationship and they will be fighting everyday, what would happen when they get married? When two of you are not compatible while you are in relationship, is only God that can make you compatible when you get married. It always good to put so many things into consideration be you choose your life partner. God is the only one who can give you a happy home, plus your character and the type of person you marry.

Reason Why Some Men/Women Keep Away Their Phone From Their Spouse

                              
The issue of a wife picking her husband's calls or a husband picking his wife's calls has caused problem to many homes today. I see no reason why husband can not pick his wife calls or why wife can not pick her husband's calls. Most couples that practicing this are likely not to be faithful to their spouse. When you are faithful to your spouse, when you don't have any cockroach in your cupboard, there is no reason why your spouse can not pick your call.

Some men didn't want their wives to pick their call because their girlfriends might call them at any time and some women didn't want their husband to pick their call because their man friends might call at any time. Some husband/wife find it difficult to put down their phone for just five minutes at home especially when they are not with the phone because they don't want their spouse to have assess to the messages sent by their girlfriends or man friends. When some people mistakenly leave their phone in living room and maybe they are in kitchen or toilet and their phone ring, come and see how they will rush to pick the phone.

GOD'S WISDOM OVER YOUR MARITAL LIFE

God's wisdom can give you happy home. Happy home is a family where love, peace, joy and unity reigns. Before all these can be reign in your family, you need something first which is God. Bible says, All reaches and glory is from God, God has everything in possession, He is the givers of everything and if you ask anything from Him concern your marriage, He will surely do it for you.

When you build the foundation of your marriage on Christ, believe me, God will direct you to the right person that will give you rest of mind in Christ, the presence of God will be dwelling in your home and God's wisdom to live happily with your spouse will be given to you. Some marriages are not enjoyable maybe because they failed to accept wisdom of God to be directing them. That is why bible says "For they failed to accept the knowledge of God in their heart, God leave them for a reprobate mind to be doing what is wrong".
 
No matter your knowledge, no matter your wisdom and no matter your intelligent, if you did not ask for the wisdom of God to be directing you to build your home, all effort you apply in building you home will just be nothing because you can not do anything with your own wisdom except wisdom of God.Matthew 19:26 “With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.” To get this wisdom of God to build your home, your have to move closer to God, be prayerful and apply His wisdom in whatever you are doing. When you are been directed by God's wisdom over your marital life, your home will be peaceful^.

11 Reasons Why You Should Love your Husband

                          
The presence of man is very important in the life of woman. Any home without a man, such home is not complete and is not enjoyable. Bible says two are better than one, since it is not good for a man to stay alone likewise it is not good for a woman to stay alone.

You need to love and respect your husband for these following reasons:

 1) He promised to marry you and he did
 2) He gives you his love
 3)  He takes good care of you, your children
 4)  He provide for the needs of the family
 5) He satisfy you sexually
 6) He work hard to provide food for the family
 7) He is your companion
 8) He is your adviser
 9) He allow you to share 
10) He agreed to spend the rest of his life with you
11)  Above all, is your head as Christ is the head of the church Ephesians 5:23

 Love and respect your husband and he will loves you back so that you can build a happy home.

13 Reason Why You Should Love Your Wife

                                
Women are jewel that  every home must have. Any home without a woman is incomplete. As we all know there is no respect for a king without a queen. That is why God said it is not good for a man to be alone and He made a woman like him. Since woman is very important to have at home, we must love and care for them, we must cherish and adore them, we must recognize their value, we must appreciate their presence in our life.

 Love your wife for these following reasons:

 1) She left her parents to live together with you. 
 2) She promised to live with you for the rest of her life. 
 3) She drops her father's name to bear your name because of the love she has for you.
 4) God raise children for you through her.
 5) She went through many pains starting from when she got pregnant to delivery stage and during the labour  .  
 6) She satisfy your sexual desire
 7) She tiding the home and do all domestic chores
 8) She is you companionship
 9) She is your adviser 
10) She gives you her love
11)She cook for you at a regular time
12) She is the flesh in your flesh and born in your born
13) She is everything to you

Love your wife so that she can love you too as it will enable you to build a happy home.

Who is Your Best Friend After Your Marriage

When you ask some people who is their best friend, you will see them mention somebody who doesn't add value to their lives. Somebody who doesn't love them, somebody who can easily betray them. Somebody who can not stay by them during period of problem, Somebody who can ruin their lives.

Your spouse should be your best friend immediately after you get married. The moment you get married, you have to reduce the number of friends you keep. When you see your spouse as your best friend, it helps marriage. It promote cordial relationship and mutual understanding among couple. Create time for your spouse more than your friends outside. 

Some men prefer to stay long with their friends in beer parlor and return home late in the night, how will their wives and children enjoy their husband and fatherly role? You may be providing all they need at home but is not enough if you wife can not feel your presence when you are suppose to be around her. Your wife and children want to be seeing you around them and feel your presence. Don't be too far to your spouse, let him or her feel your absent whenever you are not around or your work demands for that.

There are many couples that live like cat and rat at home. The only time they enjoy staying at home is when their spouse are not around. When both husband and wife are at home, their house will not be conducive to stay that day. Some even see their spouse as their enemy and there is no mutual corporation between them. They can not sit down and reason together the way forward, How would such home be progressed? Any home where couple do have problem with each other, the children suffer the consequence. See your spouse as your best friend and practice your friendship wholeheartedly and you will see your family keep progressing.

Marry Somebody With The Hope of Changing Him or Her To Your Taste

Nobody can change another person's character except God. If a brother or a sister comes to your way and you know he or she doesn't have the qualities you need in him or her, or if the character or attitude is not worth the person you should marry. Never tried to marry him or her because the tendency that he or she will change is half.

Character is very difficult to do away with. If after your marriage he or she did not change from that bad habit and problem started emanating between both of you, what will you do? Nothing! You have married and there is no going back. All you have to do is to accept your fate and carry your cross. This is the reason why you need to put so many things into consideration before you say yes I do.

You don't manage to marry somebody, if somebody's character is not compatible with yours, the best thing is to look for someone else that you are both compatible and you can enjoy spending the rest of your life with because marriage is to be enjoy and not endure.

At times, he or she can pretend as if he or she has changed, you need to be very careful because bible says in Jeremiah 17:9 that ''the heart is perverse above all things, and unsearchable, who can know it?'' What will happen if you think you will change him or her later to your taste and it doesn't work out? Remember that marriage is for better for worst and you need to enjoy your marriage according to the plan of God for us not to endure.

Marry Out of Pity

It is always good to marry somebody out of love but not out of pity. When you love your spouse before you marry him or her, you will enjoy your marriage. But if you marry somebody you don't love, for you to build the love may be somehow difficult because you can only build upon what you have, not what you don't have.

Appreciate Your Spouse

Sometimes when i look at some family, i pity their wives for marry such men as their husband. No matter how beautiful their wives are, their husband will still have girlfriend and woman friend outside. No matter how respectful, submissive, lovely, trustworthy, cheerful, kind e.t.c they are, their husband can never be satisfied with them. You should learn how to appreciate your wife for whom she is. Their husband did not give them rest of mind and happy home they deserve. Some wives have accepted their fate for marry such man which is not suppose to be so.

Some husband also, no matter how responsible, caring, loving and hard working they are, their wives won't appreciate them, they are torn in their husband flesh. They push their husband to do what they are not intended to do at times. Their husband will try all their possible best to provide food for the home and other necessary things, still such women will not appreciate it until they send their husband out.

Let us inculcate the habit of appreciating our spouse because it makes love to strong and stand. Don’t let strangers do your job for you. It is you who must appreciate your spouse. Just say it; it will not remove anything from you. You can praise and appreciate your spouse from the little things to the big ones. Appreciate your spouse for whatever he or she did or bought for you including domestic chores.

One great thing I have discovered about appreciation is that when you find it easy to praise and adore your spouse, you attract the same things to yourself. It’s a principle. Very soon it becomes a cycle, you give praise, and you receive praise. You appreciate your spouse and you are appreciated. No matter what, don’t keep quiet, say it and mean it.

Do you know that if you failed to value and appreciate your spouse, you may loose your spouse for those who value and appreciate him or her outside. If you are a man or a woman who doesn't know how to appreciate your spouse, please change so that you, your wife and children can enjoy a happy home.

Why You Should Avoid Your EX

It is not a good idea for you to still be calling your ex after you have married. There is nothing bad when you come across each other in any where and cheerfully greet each other. For you not to allow devil to destroyed your happy home, you have to avoid your ex because you don't know his or her intention towards your happy home.

Do you know that some people wish to share from your joy and happy home if they don't enjoy theirs. If your ex enjoy you sexually and after he or she got married there is no more from his or her spouse. He or she may like to be having secret affair with you. If a man believed you jilted him by marry another man after all he had done for you, if care is not taken, he may take your advantage unless he is a responsible and God fearing  man.

Once you did not marry your ex, you have to keep distance because he or she may not be happy as you dropped him or her for another person. He or she may not have happy home like yours or may not be successful like you and may want to destroy your home. Bible says watch and pray. If you are praying without watch is like a child that play with snake. Your watch is to avoid him or her so that you don't fall into temptation.

Reason Why Some People Don't Enjoy Their Marriage

 
Whoso findeth a wife findeth good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord, Proverb 18:22.
These are the reasons why some people are not enjoying their marriage:

Failure to build the foundation of their marriage on the solid rock that can never shake which is Christ. Jesus said nobody can receive anything from God except through Him. You must take God first in your marriage and allow him to direct you. Some are managing their home with their own wisdom instead of wisdom of God.

Wishes of Women To Their Husbands

In a marriage seminar, these are the wishes of some women. Men take note.

1) women want their husband to admire them
2) women want their husband to esteem them
3) women want their husband to be concern about their welfare
4) women want their husband to speak that same old language of love they are used to during their honeymoon
5) women want their husband to stop shouting at them when they are wrong
6) women want their husband to correct them with love and not with rod
7) women want their husband to be open to them as they one and not stranger
8) women want their husband to treat them as component and not as opponent
9) women want their husband to be there for them
10) women want their husband to consider their viewpoints or opinion and make them relevant. May God help us in Jesus name

Confindant In Marriage

Confidant means intimate friend or someone who is close to your heart. A good friend is worth than wealth. Jesus Christ should only be our confidant and no other third party. Jesus Christ is our true friend and can not be compared to anyone in this world.

Apart from Jesus Christ, your spouse should only be your confidant and nobody else. There shouldn't be anything that you can't discuss with your spouse. If there is anything bothering your heart, your spouse should be the best person to discuss it with. It is very dangerous to have somebody outside as your confidant because you don't know who loves you and who hate you.

There are some people who doesn't want your progress, because you don't know them and when you reveal your secrete to them, it might lead to your down fall. Wives, beware of whom you run after to complain about your husband to, some people are there to send you out of your peaceful home. Husband don't let anybody turn your back against your wife, some are envy of your peaceful home and they want your home to be like theirs.

It is advisable to have your spouse as your confidant, if you have any issue, don't share it with outsider but your spouse. If your spouse can not help out, commit it to God's hand so that you can enjoy your marital home.

How Honesty Helps Relationship To Stand

This means always telling the truth. It is very important for a guy and a lady to start their relationship with honesty. Your discussion must always be full of truth, lying about an issue might spell doom for you in future.

When you think telling the truth in some area might make him or her to leave, you better do and let him or her leave, he/she may not be the will of God for you. Don't hide anything from him or her. Someone may say, if I tell him or her everything, he or she may use them against me when we get married, this also is wrong, don't be tempted to hide anything from him or her.

When you know you can totally trust your mate, it removes a large potential for worry. It also builds your internal security so that you won't only feel good about your partner, but you also feel better about life. Having an honest relationship creates a kind of buffer between you and the difficulties of the world. Having a mate you can trust and rely on also makes it easier to take those risks that help us grow.

Truth stands the test of time, lies are soon exposed. By telling your spouse the truth, he or she will be loving you the more and will build trust in you. This will go a long way in helping you to build a happy home.

11 Secrets of Building a Happy Family

1 Build a Family Altar

Every homes that will be successful must have an avenue on how they communicate with their creator ''God''. This family altar is not the altar in the church but medium of communicating with God at night and early in the morning. You may read from your bible or daily manner to teach your family about the word of God. This give parents the avenue to impact knowledge into the life of their children and put their feet on the pat they should follow. It allow them to commit their ways into God's hand. 

2 Enjoy Each Other

Marriage is very sweet when it involved to people who understand all it takes to build a happy home. The essence of a happy family is that they truly uplift each other and that all comes down to how they treat each other. Parents come home and the kids are happy to see them and when kids come home, the parents are happy to see them. In any happy family, the absenet of one person will be feel by other member. When all the family member enjoy the home, the house will be peaceful.

3 Put the Marriage First

The relationship and marriage must come first. Set a real example of love. There are many families where kids, Job and many other things always come first in marriage. Then they become substitute providers of love. That's an unfair burden to put on a kid. It's also bad for families because kids will move out of the house eventually and the marriage will last for long.

4 Create Time for Stories

Create time for story enable family to share their experience and knowledge from their working place, and chidren to share their experience from school. When your kids come home, ask them what happened in school and have a story for them. In the evening or weeked, you can give them a story and allow them to ask question. this enable them to be free and more closer to each other in the family. This way you give your kids something to look forward to. When you are not around, they will feel your absent. The great bane of family life is boredom and that is what leads to dysfunction, affairs, and kids wanting to be with their friends over family and father or mother keep friends mother family.

5 Put Family Before Friend

Family must come before friend before it can be successful. Parents must understand that caring for kids also has to be fun. Give rules, but understand that kids need fun, too. When kids get bored and listless, they start looking for excitement out of the home and that is when friends become more important. Friendship is important, but subordinate to family.

 6 Eat Together

Families that eat together, stay together. It's that simple. Family dinners are essential to be taken together Have a minimum of four family dinners per week. When a family eat together, it brings more closeness and understanding. It even serve as an avenue to train up children on table ethics. It discourage the habit of men staying long with their friends or irrelevant issue outside.

7 Play Together

Have one or two unifying activities that the family does together on a nightly basis. He suggests bedtime stories for young children or reading a chapter from a novel to an older child. Couple must create an avenue for playing together. You can hardly see some couple playing together, the wife even find it difficult to discourse with the husband. Any marriage that will survive, husband and wife must have close rapport.

8 Free Communication System

There must be a good communication system at home in which everyone will understand and communicate freely. Imagine some homes where wives find it difficult to discouse with their husbands and children are not free to discouse with their fathers. Such home may find it difficult to build a successful home but in a happy family, there are more flexible, open lines of communication. In happy families, all the members of family unit are able to communicate openly..

9 Keep Your Voices Down

Remember that children thrive on stability. "There has to be a calm environment at home. Talk to your kids, give them strict rules, and punish children when necessary, but don't lose control and yell. If you yell at kids, that shows you are out of control and you create a nonpeaceful environment.

10 Never Fight in Front of the Kids

Parents must try all their possible best to avoid fighting in the presence of their children. While some fighting or bickering may be inevitable, try to keep it away from the children. If your kids see you fight and argue, apologize and say, 'We are sorry you had to see it. Daddy and I just had a disagreement, but everything is OK now.'"

11 Don't Place Work Above Your Family

Many homes have been destroyed today because of the husbands or wives over concentration on work more than family. All work and no play does worse things to a family than make it dull. "If you are away all the time and don't prioritize your kids, your kids will internalize feelings of insecurity thereby make them to believe that they are not valuable enough. It makes husband or wife believe his or her spouse love work more than him or her.

REASON FOR FIGHT AMONG COUPLE AT HOME

Some homes are always hot, the husband and wife always fight each other. In their street, they have recognized their house as a fighter house. When they start their fight, you won't believe they are husband and wife. They will expose all their secret matter as if the fight would not end again, and after some hours or the following day, the fight is over. My question is that what of the picture they have place in the mind of people? Are they not ashamed of themselves?

The major reason for the fight between husband and wife at times is lack of understanding, impatience and ignorant. Couple needs to understand each other and be patient with each other. If one is angry, the other must be patient in-order to allow peace to reign in their house.

A testimony from a pastor sometimes ago. He said before he accepted Christ, he used to fight and beat up his wife and he believed he was doing the right thing then. He said when people come to separate them whenever they are fighting, the more he continue stronger and beat up his wife. Until when he accepted Christ that he knew he was doing the wrong thing out of ignorant. It takes God's grace, patience and understanding before a couple can live together happily without fight. When you give your life to Christ  and allow the spirit of God to be dwelling in you and control your life, no matter what your spouse have done wrong to you, the spirit will allow you to have power over anger and over look and forgive your spouse. 

REASON WHY COUPLE SHOULD EAT TOGETHER

I wonder why some couples find it difficult to eat together, although where there is no true love things like this may be somehow difficult. It is good for couples to be practicing this, it makes love to continue growing.

You will see a new couple eating differently while they are both on ground when the food is ready. The only time that this suppose to happen is when maybe the husband is not at home when the wife prepare the food and the wife is hungry. Even though you are hungry as a wife, what you need to do is to eat little out of the food and wait till your husband returns and eat with him. Your husband may not even know that you have eaten out of the food before he returns home.

REASON WHY SOME MARRIED WOMEN LOOK OUTSIDE FOR S3X

LACK OF RESPONSIBILITY: Everybody knows that it is the responsibility of man to provide food and other necessity for their wife and children at home. Any husband who failed to perform his duty at home as husband can drive his wife outside. When you asked some women why they are looking outside, some of them is because lack of money to meet up with their daily need. They believe that they should use what they have to get what they want which is money. When you provide what your wife and children need to your capacity, your wife will have no reason to look outside. Though there are some women no matter how you take good care of them, with their greediness and covetous they will still look outside.

HOW LONG IT TAKES TO BUILD A HAPPY HOME

Since marriage is an institution where both party involved can never be graduated, also there is no particular time that building a happy home can last for. Building a happy home always continue till the end of the marriage. Do you understand what i mean by saying ''end of the marriage?'' it means till death do us apart. One will continue to build his or her home until the death of either party.

Another thing people failed to know is that, building a happy home does not only start when they get married but right from their childhood. Home training is the first thing we need in our life which will help us wherever we go and when we get married. For instance, a lady who doesn't know how to sweep in the morning, who doesn't know how to cook soup or delicious food, we likely face challenges when she get married. Likewise a man who doesn't have home training may likely have problem with his wife and children when he get married.

We need to start building ourselves for marriage even when we have not started thinking of marriage, like they say, no knowledge is lost, whatever training, whatever knowledge you acquired today will help you in future. We are seeing many homes with different challenges, this should enable us to plan on how to build our home when we get married, but most of the people are waiting until they marry before they start working toward building a happy home.

What you need to know today, don't wait till tomorrow before you will know it because tomorrow might be too late. So many people that are facing challenges in their marriage today is as a result of failure to have the knowledge of what they are going to face in the future when they married. Imagine what you are not conversant with right from your childhood and youthful period, how will you be able to cope till the end of your life? You can't build your marriage, let say for ten years and stop thinking it would continue building itself., capital No. If you want to enjoy your marriage to the fullness, take a step today and learn all you need to know about marriage.

ARE YOU THE BIOLOGICAL FATHER OF YOUR FIRST CHILD?

The issue of marriage is dangerous and delicate that everyone needs to be very very careful before getting to it. No wonder why so many homes are in problem, why our society is having problem. No wonder why some men are labour without good result. For an adage says, any home that is at peace the bastard child there is not yet grown up.

Young boys and men, this is the reason why you need to avoid premarital sex, sex is not meant for you now. When you get married you will enjoy it with your wife. Some ladies are very dangerous and they can do and undo. They believe that they should use what they have to get what they want. Some of them didn't have one particular boyfriend and when they get pregnant, they will be looking for who to be responsible for the pregnancy. When they come to Mr A and he refused to accept the pregnancy, they will go to Mr B, when he did not accept it they will go to Mr C until somebody out of his ignorant accept to be responsible for the pregnancy.

Some ladies are in a serious relationship but still have some other boyfriends, when they get pregnant from out side they arrange it for their guy. The funniest thing is that, some guys knew they are responsible for the pregnancy but not ready to be a father now, they later want to claim the child in future. Assume you involved in this game and you now father a bastard child, when the secret later leak in future that you are not the biological father of the child you claimed to be your child, how will you feel? But when you wait till the right time, you did not mess around, you take the right step and you do necessary test, there is no way you can father a bastard child.

To buttress my point, there was a great crusade in one of the state in our country here which I will not mention the name. The man of God saw a revelation and said it that some women are here, the person they claimed to be the father of their first child are not and they should come out now for prayer before the  they wrath of God come upon them, almost half of the women in the congregation came out. Imagine this, it's happens every where but when you try to be decent and look for a decent lady to marry and abstain from premarital sex, you can not involve in such mess.

REASON WHY YOU SHOULD NOT COLLECT GIFT BEFORE A RELATIONSHIP

Some ladies really believe in gift, before you can approach them you must have bought or presented gift to them. They can't see you as responsible or generous person if you don't buy them gift, they will rather call you a stingy man and they will not give you audience. Buying gift is not the determinant of true love. There are some guys who can spoil you with varieties of gift but deep down them, they did not love you. They are only doing that to get what they want from you, you will know their real colour immediately after they get what they want.

When you did not start with accepting gift from men, if you enter into a relationship and you discovered somethings you don't like in the relationship, you can easily quit after all you have not collected any thing from him. Your mind will be free but if he had spent much for you, he may be thinking you played him and be treating you. Your conscience may not allow you to rest thereby you may decided to marry him without even considering the fact that it is not good to marry out of pity or to manage a relationship/marriage or to marry him and believe you will change him or her later.

When you start receiving gift before relationship, that may lead you to marry wrong person. Proverb. 17:8 A gift is a precious stone in the eyes of him that hath it: whithersoever it turneth, it prospereth. Proverb. A wicked man taketh a gift out of the bosom to pervert the ways of judgement. Eccl. 7:7 Surely oppression maketh a wise man mad; and a gift destroyeth the heart. Exo. 23:8 And thou shalt take no gift: for the gift blindeth the wise, and perverteth the words of the righteous. The joy of marriage is for you to marry somebody you both understand each others and live a happy life. Be wise, don't eat your future today.

FOUR ADVANTAGE OF BEING SINGLE

(1) TIME TO SERVE GOD:- Single have time to serve God more than married 1corinthians 7:32-35 the unmarried man is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to please the Lord. But the married man is anxious about worldly things, how to please his wife, and his interests are divided. And the unmarried or betrothed woman is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to be holy in body and spirit. But the married woman is anxious about the worldly things, how to please her husband. This is the right time that a single brother or sister can set his or her feet on the right path he or she will be follow till the rest of his or her life. Bible says Eccl. 12:1 ''Remember your creator in the days of your youth when the day of even has not come''.

(2) TIME TO YOURSELF:- The single have enough time for themselves but married do not. The single sleeps and wakes up when he or she likes, no husband, wife or children to disturb. But married did not free like this, husband, wife or children will disturb. Most of the time they decide on what to do alone, nobody to control them.

(3) FINANCIAL NEEDS:- The money required to provide for the single man's needs is minimal compare to a married man who is to provide for the needs of the children, wife and himself. When you are a dependant especially a girl your parent, uncle, aunty e.t.c assist you financially but the moment you get married they believe your husband will provide your needs for you.

(4) TIME TO PLAN FOR FUTURE:- An adage says "every man is the architect of his life" whatever foundation you lay for yourself is what you will build upon.this the period for them to work hard and provide for their future. Is the period to which they should pray fervently for the right partner because once you married to the wrong person, there is no room for second chance according to Matt. 5:32. This is the period in wish a serious person will face his or her education for him or her to achieve greater height in the nearest future. The level you found yourself determine who to marry, if you found yourself in the gathering of illiterate, you marry from there and if you are educated, you marry educated fellow as husband or wife. Don't play while you are suppose to work.

5 REASONS WHY LOVE IN MARRIAGE FAILED TO CONTINUE THE WAY IT STARTED

The reasons why most marriage did not continue the way it started are:

Failure to put God first in our marriage: If we put God first, He will direct us in the right way, He will give us the wisdom to handle our home. We can not use our own knowledge to build a happy home. If we failed to ask for the knowledge of God to build a happy home, we will fail in our marriage. Roman 1:28-29 '' And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which is not convenient; Being filled with all unrighteousness, maliciousness: full of envy, murder, debate, deceit, malignity; whisperers, Backers, haters of God, despiteful, proud, boasters, inventors of evil things, disobedient to parents, Without understanding, covenant breakers, without natural affection, implacable, unmerciful:'' Marriage issue is very complex, full of ups and downs and without God's knowledge nobody can build a happy home. Such person will be doing either of the things mentioned above. At the end, the marriage may have problem.

Lack of true love: Most people did not build the foundation of their marriage on true love and when foundation is faulty, there is nothing one can do. When you did not start your marriage on true love, there is no way it can last. Bible say love your neighbours as yourself, if you love your wife/husband as yourself, you will enjoy your happy home.

Fake covenant: Marriage vow should be a geniue one before the marriage could be stand, when you have a geniue vow to you spouse and you stand by it. Your love will continue stronger but many couples forget the vow immediately after the wedding. 

Lack of marital counseling: Everybody wish to have a happy home but they lack information and knowledge needed to build such a happy home. Information is power, attend marriage seminars and family forum to know more on how to build a successful marriage. Many couples do not know what makes a marriage to stand. Whatever you don't know, there is no way you can do it.

More commitment: Nearly all the relationship started well with love, care, understanding, cherish, hugging, kissing, going out together, putting on the same clothe and with many sweet words like, my dear, my love, my sweetheart, my heart, my life e.t.c. Had it been it continue like that after the marriage and both party take it as responsibility upon themselves. All home would have been settled and everybody would have enjoy his or her marriage. But as our relationship continues forward, “stuff” begins to accumulate and begins to distract us from the very essentials needed for a successful marriage. Suddenly, we worry more about the appraisal value of our home than the value of our relationship. We check the health of our retirement account far more often than the health of our marriage. Or we spend more time taking care of the car in the garage than the other person in our bed. Things begin to accumulate in our homes and lives and soon demand our money, energy, and precious time. As a result, we have little left over for the very elements that keep our marriages successful.

ISSUE OF S*EX IN MARRIAGE

S*ex is legal and enjoyable between married couple. It promote cordial relationship between couples. When it happened between boyfriends and girlfriends is a sin.1 Corinthians 7:2-5 ''but since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband''.

The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.1 Corinthians 7:9 but if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.

If they can not control what? Control themselves s*exually, if they can not do without s*ex, they should marry one husband/wife, that means they should only have one sexual partner which is their husband/wife. Having extra-marital affairs outside your wedlock is a sin against your creator. The body of the husband belongs to his wife alone and nobody else, and the body of the wife belongs to her husband alone and nobody else. It is only your spouse that must see your nakedness and nobody else. If you share your body with another person different from your husband/wife, you commit sin against your spouse and against God. When the consequence would come, it may turn your happy home to sorrowful home and lead to separation or divorce.

 Men should try to stick to there wives and the wives to their husbands because adultery can result to financial set back and a family could be ruined an infection like HIV. Any man or woman that want there marriage to be prosper both physically and spiritually must not indulged in it.

WHY SOME LADIES PREFER TO MARRY MARRIED MEN

Some people said married men are reliable and you can depend on them while single guys are not, some said married men can't disappoint you. Some said single guys can't spend money like married men and some other people said that married men have love experience.

For whatever reason, you have no right to be going after married men because he has wife at home already. The only reason why somebody can marry a married man is when he is a widower. If you marry a married man because of money, who told you that the money will remain forever? Do you even consider your marriage happiness? If you marry money and you did not find happiness in that home is equal to zero.

If you marry him because of love experience, if he can share the love he has for his wife with you, be expecting such from him to you. As he disappointed his wife at home he will also disappoint you too. If you say the single guys are not reliable and dependable, do you remember that married man has portrait that character too by disappointed his wife who relied and depend on him.

It is a bad habit that ladies should desist from, some women have try all their possible best to work together with their husband and build a happy home at the end, but a lady will just come from nowhere and turn the home to sad one for the woman. Remember there is always payback period, whatever you soul you shall reap

Above all, bible say one husband one wife. Bible did not support one husband two or more wives which is polygamy family. If you now force yourself to be the second wife, is a sin against God. If you send somebody out of his matrimonial home remember she has a creator who will fight for her and one day you too should be expecting such thing.

Despite the fact that ladies are comment about guys, some guys are still good, reliable and dependable. All you need is to pray to God for the right man. If you meet the right man, you will forget the story of single guys or men are not responsible. Move closer to God and pray for the right person and He will surprise you.

WHY YOU NEED TO PLAN FOR MARRIAGE BEFORE PLANNING FOR WEDDING

Marriage is a long term relationship between two individuals while wedding is a ceremony of getting married. Majority of people are planning for wedding before marriage. Wedding is just for a day while marriage is for life. The problem now is that, many people take their time to plan for their wedding, they want to do their wedding in an elaborated form, they want their wedding to be the talk of the town and they spend huge amount of money on their wedding.

No matter all they spent on the wedding, no matter the caliber of people that attended the wedding, all will end just in that same day but the marriage will start and continue either well planned for or not. Some people will go to the extent of indebted, either elaborated wedding or not, everybody will go back to their different home and it will remain husband and wife only to drive their home forward. This is where problem lies because nobody is going to building your home for you.

Planning of marriage is for long period different from planning for wedding which is just short period. There is no way you can plan all for marriage but planning of marriage started from when you are still young, when you have known what is home and marriage. Then, you must have seen many homes both happy homes and unhappy homes and the thought must have come to you on how you want your home to be when you get married. You have to know what marriage entails before planning for wedding. Failure to plan for marriage at the long run is the problem some people are facing today.

Before we can build a happy home, we must first of all build ourselves to a good house wife/husband materials. We must build our character, some people's character are very bad to the extent that they can't live together or share anything together with anybody but they want to live together with husband/wife. They always find it difficult to live happily with their husband or wife when they get married. Nobody can build good character in a short period of time, it started from your childhood to adult level. Parents should try and build their children ahead of future.

INVITING YOUR EX TO YOUR WEDDING

Like some people do say, there is nothing bad in inviting your ex to your wedding ceremony provided you separated peacefully, you did not jilted him or her, if he or she was caused the reason for break up. At times, some relationship break up due to reason like family disagreement, blood test e.g. Genotype, if both of them are AS, the marriage may be discouraged. If there is a prophecy that they should not marry each other. If you both love each other but you can't marry each other due to any of the point above, there is nothing bad if you invite your ex, once you continue your good friendship.

FIVE REASON WHY YOU NEED TO AVOID PREMARITAL S*EX

These are the reason why you need to avoid premarital sex before marriage:

1) SIN: S*ex is the intercourse between man and woman, s*ex is enjoyable when is being done by matured man and woman who are already married and is not a sin to them. Sex is not for unmarried or single boys and girls, that is why bible says let the bed be undefiled. Having sex when you are still single is a sin. Hebrews 13:4 ''Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled. If you defiled the bed, you have sin against God''. It was designed to happen within a committed marriage of selfless love. Outside of that, fornication just breaks the heart and wounds the soul.

THREE IMPORTANT FOOD THAT SEND MEN OUT EASILY IF NOT GIVEN

1) FOOD: Food is very important in man's life and nobody can live without food. An adage says ''an hungry man is an angry man'' some people don't know the role which food play in marriage. Some wives find it difficult to prepare food for their husband on time, their husband will go to the work without eaten in the morning. Some wives even encourage cooler, they ask their husband to buy food or send somebody to buy food for them to eat at work. And when their husband return from work,

WHY YOU DON'T NEED TO REPORT YOUR SPOUSE TO THIRD PARTY

Never report your spouse to anyone. Your spouse is your best friend and if there is any issue between you, try to settle it amicably. Study your spouse to understand him or her and to know when he or she can listen to you, to your advice, to your suggestion and to your plead when you offend him or her.

UNDERSTANDING IN MARRIAGE

       Understanding is one of the most important tools to drive marriage to final destination. What do I mean by saying marriage destination? On the wedding day, both couple agreed and vowed that "we will love each other to the death do us part" death is the final destination of marriage here on earth.